On Not Giving Up


Though cruelty seems to be on the rise
and celebrated, do not give up,
there has always been cruelty among us.


Though the echo chambers of fear
cascade through the inter webs
and across the electric wires,
do not give up.


Step away, take a breath,
come back to your beloveds,
your dog, the bloom on the camilla,
your wife, a friend.


Of course, you are scared and disheartened.
Be brave. Walk into the halls of power
or the power of your own flesh
and pronounce what is good
and the ways you witness your neighbors bleeding,
the ways the powerful have forgotten
and run scared from their vulnerable hearts.


Take a rest when it is needed, withdraw
into a cup of tea or a nap
but don’t give up.


We need you. You, your specific story,
your experience,
your wisdom and tenacity,
even when you don’t feel wise or brave.


We need your tender, caring heart.
We need your shoulder on which to cry.
Don’t give up.
We don’t truly know what will happen.


We know we have to bend the arc
toward justice by showing up.
We have to save each other and ourselves.


Take a chance. Choose hope.
Don’t give up.


Lisa Cottrell

As we celebrate the turning of the sun for another year and the days becoming more full of light, you may want to take some time to look at how you lived the past year and how you hope to live this one. Here are some practices to help you have clarity and live intentionally.

The first exercise can help you reflect on what brought you joy, happiness, fulfillment and meaning last year. It can also help you reflect on how well you lived in alignment with your values and whether or not you achieved some of your goals. The second and third are for this year.

1. The Year in Review
2. Intentions, Plans and Goals for the New Year
3. Word of the Year

The Year in Review.

Look through your calendar and your photos from last year. Note the activities that were highlights of your year. You may want to write them down. I decided to write down a list of the special activities I did each month.
Which were the most fun or made you happiest? Which made you feel proud? How many were social? Which were most meaningful? Which were adventurous or creative or responsible or other qualities you value? I realized I’m happier when I’m more social.
Note what you did regularly through the year like work, stretch, walk, meditate, etc.
Which types of activities do you want to be sure to do this year?
Were there significant changes? Did you begin any new habits? If so, congratulations! Savor your successes. Learn from the plans that didn’t work out.
If you wish, write down the stressors of the year. You survived them!

2) Intentions, Goals, Objectives and Plans for the New Year.

Write down what you would like to create in your life this year. Create a few goals.
Make sure the goals are in alignment with the overall vision for your life.
Prioritize the list according to your values.
Make objectives specific and measurable. Consider the steps involved.
Schedule those steps or actions. Start with a small, easy step. Try to make them happen.
You might want to consider potential obstacles and how to overcome them.
Try your best and let go of the outcome, as not every plan succeeds.

3) Word of the year.

What is a word that will be your focus for the year? See what rises up in your mind that you might need more of in your life. Here are a few examples: ease, play, discipline, adventure, compassion, self-care, service. You can choose a few, if you like.
Post it where you will see it daily, maybe on your wall, mirror or calendar.

Be well. Let me know how I can support you in this endeavor. Wishing you a happy new year!

Lisa Cottrell, LPC
Well Being Psychotherapy
© 2025

 Accumulate Positive Emotions

a) Do pleasant things that you enjoy every day. Feed your soul
b) Make plans to do more pleasant, meaningful things in future
c) Develop an attitude of gratitude
d) Develop and maintain friendships and important relationships

Build Mastery

a) Do things that make you feel competent and effective
b) Make a list and cross accomplishments off your list when done
c) Plan and do instead of procrastinating 

Cope Ahead with difficult or emotional situations

a) Expect the best instead of the worst
b) Plan for what you will do to cope with a situation and its challenges
c) Get advice and support from others 

Practice Self-Care

a) Live according to your values and goals
b) Be kind to yourself
c) Reassure yourself
d) Create routines and a schedule
e) Manage your finances responsibly; use a budget; track expenses
f) Get regular exercise. Treat physical and mental illness
g) Eat in a balanced, healthy way
h) Try to get enough sleep
i) Find moments to just be
j) Let go of worries. Accept what is. Change what you can.
k) Practice mindfulness. Meditate.
l) Get support. Give support

Ask yourself every day: 

What things can I do today that will build on these life skills? 

Make plans and take action. Avoid avoiding.
Do as many of these things a in day or week as you can.

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I'm excited to share that I was interviewed recently by ShoutOut Atlanta about work life balance, my work and interests. They focus on local businesses and artists. 

You can read the article here: 
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With love,

Lisa

1) Notice sensations of bodily contact here and now. Feel your feet on the floor and, if you are seated, your bottom in the chair. Feel the sensations of contact. Feel the support of the chair and the floor and the earth beneath you. Drop your awareness into your body. Try to feel the body from the inside, from the feet and the bottom, not just looking down from your head. Feel the sensations of pressure, temperature, tingling, energy. Feel the sensation of socks, shoes and clothing. Feel your spine. Feel the support of gravity. You are here. Allow awareness to arrive in your body here and now.

2) Scan your body for places you are holding tension, Drop and relax 4 areas of the body. Feel the face. Allow the forehead and brow to soften, allow the jaw to drop open and relax, allow the shoulders to drop and soften, allow the belly to relax and be soft. Just allow any places of obvious tension to relax as much as they are able right now, don’t force anything. There may be places of chronic tension (and the parts that hold them) that need more attention and support before they can fully relax.

3) Practice paced breathing for several rounds, especially when you feel activated or triggeredThis helps the nervous system and the body know you are safe. Remind yourself you are safe right now.

Option A) Count the seconds of this first in-breath, hold for 2 seconds, then double the seconds of the exhale. Count again the next breath, hold for 2 seconds and double the exhale. (repeat 2 or 3 times)
Option B) Breathe in for 4 or 5 seconds, hold for 2 seconds, then out for 8 to 10 seconds.

4) Practice 5-4-3-2-1 Mindfulness. Name 5 things you see, 4 you can touch, 3 you can hear, 2 you can smell, and take 1 mindful breath, or taste 1 thing.

5) Set an intention to arrive here and now in the present moment. Notice you are safe. (If you are currently in danger, get yourself to safety right away. Ask for help and support. Note that most of us are physically safe 99% of the time.)

Focus on a neutral anchor to ground you in the present moment. For most people, the breath is a good anchor to present moment reality. For others, mindfulness of sounds or bodily sensations are more helpful. Maybe take one or two deep breaths then let the breath return to its normal pattern, without controlling it. Just notice you are breathing, in and out. Focus on the breath, feel it in the body, then when you start having thoughts, which is what the mind does, and you notice you have wandered, return to the breath without judgment. Coming to the present allows mind and body to calm and relax. Practice mindful breathing for a few moments. Let go of worries for now. Plan later. Daily meditation has a lot of mental and physical health benefits - try 5 to 30 minutes a day.

6) Use Guided Imagery. To start, imagine yourself on a swing, paying attention to the internal feelings of the movement. The rocking motion of the swing actually opens the breath in a different way than breathing exercises. This can be very soothing.

7) Use Containment Imagery.You can imagine a chest, safe, or other container. Imagine placing the disturbing thoughts or images in that chest or container, and locking it securely until you’re ready to process them more fully, perhaps send it to your therapist’s office.

8) Use Safe Place or Sacred Space Imagery. You can base this place on any real, fictional, or imaginary location where you feel calm or content, and can design it however you like. It’s a place where you have complete control. Imagine being there and feeling safe and relaxed.

These practices help calm your nervous system and that helps reduce anxiety. Remember, it's not helpful to judge yourself for how you are feeling. Bring self-compassion and kindness to your suffering, like you would to a good friend. 

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This channel is a support to your personal growth and healing, it is not a substitute for therapy for mental health issues. 

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Thank you!

Lisa Cottrell, LPC

Mindfulness is a practice that we can learn to use to help us to be more present in the moment and to enjoy our lives more fully. Our minds think a lot, which is often very helpful, but if we think too much about the past and the future, we often miss our life as it is happening. Mindfulness meditation is a way to train our minds and hearts to be more aware and present. Mindfulness teaches us new, more effective ways to relate to our thoughts, feelings, body sensations, and life around us. Ultimately, the practice can teach us how to let go of unnecessary suffering and be more free.

Why meditate? 

There are a lot of different types of meditation. Mindfulness meditation helps us develop insights into the nature of the mind, and to develop compassion and understanding. Meditation helps us find inner stability, well being, confidence, compassion, and wisdom, which helps us be better equipped to take compassionate action in our lives and the world. 

Additionally, many scientific studies have shown the benefits of practicing mindful meditation.

Some of the proven benefits include:
Improved focus, attention, and awareness of how you think
Improved mental health
Increased positive emotions
Reduced anxiety and depression
Reduced worry and rumination
Reduced stress and anxiety
Reduced emotional reactivity
Reduced cortisol
Decreased negative affect and depression
Positive impact on numerous areas of the brain
Improved immune system functioning
Lowered blood pressure
Reduced chronic pain
Improved memory
Increased attention span
Enhanced willpower
Reduced insomnia & improved sleep
Improved perception of quality of life
Help with caregiver burnout for healthcare providers
Increase resilience by reducing size of the amygdala and the stress response
Improve cognitive flexibility

If you want to learn more about Mindful Meditation, consider taking an Introductory Course with Lisa Cottrell, LPC. Live online (Zoom) 4 week course. Other courses to follow. Lisa has taught mindfulness and meditation for over 20 years and studied with many teachers.
Please register at wellbeingpsychotherapy.net/classes-and-workshops.html If you have questions, contact [email protected].

1) Notice sensations of bodily contact 

Feel your feet on the floor and, if you are seated, your bottom in the chair. Feel the sensations of contact. Feel the support of the chair and the floor and the earth beneath you. Drop your awareness into your body. Try to feel the body from the inside, from the feet and the bottom, not just looking down from your head. Feel the sensations of pressure, temperature, tingling, energy. Feel the sensation of socks, shoes and clothing. Feel your spine. Feel the support of gravity. You are here. Allow awareness to arrive in your body here and now.

2) Scan your body for places you are holding tension, Drop 4 areas

Feel the face. Allow the forehead and brow to soften, allow the jaw to drop open and relax, allow the shoulders to drop and soften, allow the belly to relax and be soft. Just allow any places of obvious tension to relax as much as they are able right now, don’t force anything. There may be places of chronic tension (and the parts that hold them) that need more attention and support before they can fully relax. 

3) Set an intention to arrive here and now in the present moment. Notice you are safe. (If you are currently in danger, get yourself to safety right away. Note that most of us are physically safe 99% of the time.) 

Focus on a safe anchor to ground you in the present moment. For most people, the breath is a good anchor to present moment reality. For others, mindfulness of sounds or bodily sensations are more helpful. Maybe take one or two deep breaths then let the breath return to its normal pattern, without controlling it. Just notice you are breathing, in and out. Focus on the breath, feel it in the body, then when you start having thoughts, which is what the mind does, and you notice you have wandered, return to the breath without judgment. Coming to the present allows mind and body to calm and relax. Practice mindful breathing for a few moments. Let go of worries for now. Plan later. Daily meditation has a lot of mental and physical health benefits - try 5 to 30 minutes a day.

4) If you feel activated or triggered, practice paced breathing for several rounds. This helps the nervous system and the body know you are safe. Also, remind yourself you are safe right now.

Option A) Count the seconds of this first in-breath, hold for 2 seconds, then double the seconds of the exhale. Count again the next breath, hold for 2 seconds and double the exhale. (repeat 2 or 3 times) 

Option B) Breathe in for 4 or 5 seconds, hold for 2 seconds, then out for 8 to 10 seconds. 

Instead of New Year’s Resolutions

Happy New Year! Many of us have good intentions of making changes in our lives, especially around the start of a New Year. We make resolutions to change that don’t last very long. We make mistakes in the way we go about trying to change.We get too ambitious or are too vague and don’t create structures to make it easier to change. We don’t decide how we are going to make other changes in our life and habits to support reaching a goal. We don’t give ourselves deadlines or break the goal down into manageable parts and decide when and how to start.

Sometimes we need someone to help hold us accountable, like a friend or therapist. Below is a worksheet I created. You can use it to help you start thinking about any changes you’d like to make in your life and ways to support yourself in making them.

One important key is to schedule your priorities. As you make choices, you may discover you have different parts of you that have conflicting wishes and priorities. Those can become obstacles. But, remember, the obstacles are the path! By moving forward, we can unearth those often unconscious habitual patterns of thinking and feeling and begin to make conscious choices.

PLANNING & CREATING A GOOD LIFE
IN ALIGNMENT WITH MY VISION AND VALUES

Pick 3 to 6 goals for this year.
Some might be about ways of being, some about achieving.​

GOAL /Promise to myself    BY WHEN (or daily/ongoing)? ________________

___________________________________________________________________
___________________________________________________________________

HABITS/ ROUTINES THAT WILL HELP ME ACHIEVE MY GOAL

___________________________________________________________________

___________________________________________________________________

MOTIVATION________________________________________________________

WHAT WILL I HAVE TO GIVE UP? (Behavior, habit or belief)

___________________________________________________________________

FIRST ACTION STEPS AND MILESTONES  - Break down into smaller tasks and schedule
___________________________________________________________________

__________________________________________________________________


Wishing you success!

Warmly,

Lisa Cottrell, LPC
Well Being Psychotherapy

Dear ones,
​I am recommending that you enroll in this wonderful, short, free course to help you learn and practice mindfulness. It is called Mindfulness Daily. It provides 10 to 15 minutes of guided teachings a day for 40 days. It is taught by two world renowned meditation teachers who both also used to be psychotherapists, Tara Brach and Jack Kornfield. It can be accessed on the Sounds True webpage and free app. I really like their structured approach to teaching you about all the different things to which you can direct your mindful attention and different techniques. I also really like the free Plum Village app created by Thich Nhat Hahn and his monastics which has guided meditations and talks. There are some good teachers on the Insight Timer app, too, but not all teach mindful meditation. (There are lots of different types of meditation.)

I’d like to share some thoughts about mindfulness. As you know, all of life occurs in the present moment. In contrast to being here now, we often are “borrowing trouble” from the future or the past and are caught up in thoughts, worries or regrets. This is not to say we don’t need to analyze and plan sometimes, but we are often lost in thought and miss out on much of our life. We often live in a half-awake dream state imagining what might be and worrying over what is already over that we can not change. Mindfulness practice and mindful meditation are antidotes to these excessive mind habits.
​
Mindfulness is:

• to be aware and awake to the present moment and life as it is
• to know what you are thinking, feeling and doing moment to moment, with an attitude of openness and non-judgment.
• to practice touching life deeply in every moment.
• to bring our body and mind in harmony while we wash the dishes, drive the car, take our shower, and communicate with others.

Why choose to be mindful?

• To reduce suffering and increase wellbeing
• To increase control of your attention and choices
• To improve your mental and physical health as proven by lots of research
• To experience reality more clearly as it is
  • Experience interconnection and oneness
  • Connect to wisdom and intuition
  • Experience freedom in the moment

Rick Hansen describes the Three Pillars of Mind Training as focused attention, open awareness, and kind intention. This includes the practices of Mindfulness (open awareness or concentration,) Loving Kindness and Compassion training. Research and brain imaging show that the repeated practice of directing one’s attention and awareness can enhance neural connections, and turn momentary mindful states into more enduring mindful traits. So, we need to practice, practice, practice to become more mindful and have it change our brain and our perception. The more time we put into practice, the better the results. I encourage you to develop a regular mindfulness practice.

Warmly,

Lisa Cottrell, LPC